Come to the Positive
I learned a critical principle from Denis Waitley a long time ago that has become a practiced habit ever since.
Denis reminds us that we should always couch comments in their positive state.
Don’t throw him a high outside pitch.
Don’t forget to pick up the milk.
Don’t forget to go to the dry cleaners.
Use these instead:
Keep it low and inside.
Remember to pick up some milk.
Remember the dry cleaning.
Denis says it takes the brain 47% longer to process a negative comment compared to a positive positioning.
This stuff works. I know firsthand.
If a violinist is facing a difficult passage, she should tell herself “Nail that A-flat.”
Avoid the “Oh boy, I hope I don’t miss that A-flat.”
Daniel adds this point: “Reach for what you want to accomplish, not away from what you want to avoid.”
P Michael Biggs
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