Monday, September 16, 2019

Playing with the Lives of Others

Playing with the Lives of Others

I hope this title makes you stop and think, as it did me.  I got it from a management book published in 1985.  The book’s title is 13 Fatal Errors Managers Make and How You Can Avoid them by W. Steven Brown.

I want to focus on this idea for a few minutes.

Whether you are a manager, leader, President, Emperor, King of the World, or husband or wife, if you have even one other person in your life, you need to come to grips with this concept.

In all of the roles listed above, we have an obligation ~ OBLIGATION to gain the necessary knowledge to liberate people to be their best, do their best, and become their best.  We have to set people free to discover who they are and what they can become. 

We are not lords.  We are not ogres.  We are not ‘god of the land’.  We are simply shepherds, guides and mentors for this moment in time in their lives.

Try and drive your charges and watch them race for the nearest exit. 

What if you offered …

~A listening ear
People want to be heard, recognized.  Spouses and employees need this.  They want to know they matter.

~Eye contact.  They want to be seen.  If you avoid eye contact, you come across as shifty, mistrustful, and people can spot that attitude in a New York minute.

~A clear understanding of expectations.
Does your spouse know your likes, wants, how you want your t-shirts folded, how you like your bacon cooked?
Do your employees know how you feel about tardiness and how much of a grace period you allow? 

We play with the lives of others when we aren’t clear about the critical aspects of a task or a relationship. 

Is it okay to ask questions when one does not understand?  Is it okay for you and your partner to agree to disagree?

What is your attitude of the critical individuals in your life?  Do they know they are cherished, trusted, wanted and believed in?

These are just a few thoughts on this critical topic. 

People never want to be manipulated. 
People LOVE to be treated with respect, kindness and trust, and they love to be heard!

This is what is
on my mind today.

P Michael Biggs

Thursday, September 12, 2019

A Worthy Way to Live

A Worthy Way to Live

Let me tell you a brief story.

Once upon a time there was a man who came to our small town.  He was a good, honest man.  He was fair in his dealings, and he loved mankind – all mankind.  He sought, each day, to do some good in his community.

And then, one sad day, he died. 

At his funeral, the preacher said these words:

“When he came there was no light.
When he died there was no darkness.”

Oh, that you and I would live our lives with such intensity. 

This is what is
on my mind today.

P Michael Biggs

Saturday, September 7, 2019

#57 Up-Words The Leap 9-7-19

A Time for Rhyme - The Leap (:44)

Morning Notes - Be Proud of Who You Are (2:18)

It's All about People - Dumb Enough to Carry on Anyway (5:36)

Internet Church - Finding Grace (8:02)

Check out this episode!

Tuesday, September 3, 2019

Dumb Enough to Carry on Anyway

Dumb Enough to Carry on Anyway

Let me be smart enough 
to know how dumb I am 
and give me the courage 
to carry on anyway.

I would never intend to offend you with my writing, but this one was too good to pass up. 

Are you a smart one? Smart enough to know you are dumb? Oh my. I glad you didn’t know me in my forties. I thought I had the world by its tail and was on top of the heap. I look back on that time in my life and shake my head in wonder and awe at my stupidity. I was fairly good at my craft in those days. Fairly. There were others in my circle who were much better. They looked better, sang better. They WERE better.

And now … I shake my head and thank God I made it through that era. Today, I’m less concerned about bettering someone, or looking better, being better, and each morning I find the courage to carry on anyway.

Can you relate to this? Can you see yourself “back then” and thank God you made it this far?

Self-reflection is a wonderful thing. And as we age, perhaps we gain some true insights. And perhaps, best of all, we gain courage to carry on in spite of our inadequacies.

This is, perhaps, the best kind of courage of all.

This is what is
on my mind today.

P Michael Biggs