Friday, November 8, 2013

M = Mindful Mindset Mentor

Our premise for this series is this:  If plan A fails we still have twenty-five other options.

And that brings us to our “M” words.  Three words come to mind for our focus today.


Mindful
A good working definition of this word is “conscious or aware of something”.

If, as in our premise, you are facing a failure, there is a great chance that after we get over the shock of our loss, we begin the process of becoming mindful of some of the obstacles in our way and some of the pitfalls we should have avoided.

Without “mindfulness”, we would be prone to stumble back into the same holes we just emerged from.  

Mindful is a good thing.  It requires one to ask the hard questions and come to grips with the answers and solutions discovered.

Ask questions such as:
  How did this happen?
  When did I start down this track?
  What should I have done differently?
  What am I going to do differently in the future?

All of these are great top-of-mind questions and they cannot be handled lightly if we truly want to avoid pitfalls the next time around.


Mindset
Mindset becomes the next natural step after our mindful experience.  These synonyms jump out at us when we consider “Mindset”.

  State of mind
    Frame of mind
      Attitude
        Approach
          Way of thinking
            Outlook

After a failure, we have to re-frame ourselves and our dream.  This takes an attitude adjustment, thinking differently, and approaching the project from a completely fresh direction.

We can easily fall in love with an idea, yet, when that idea fails us, changing our minds can be a daunting task.  And we must make the change. 

We must change our mindset.  As we've noted above, this requires a series of tough questions and spending time with those questions.

Sometimes that time is spent in group-think sessions, and, for the responsible parties, it requires some alone time and alone time has a companion – gut wrenching honesty.  No matter how much we love a particular idea, we often have to lay it aside or put it on the chopping block and see what happens.

Once we reach that point, we can perhaps experience a paradigm shift.  I found this useful concept when looking up this word. 

“Maybe if you got out of the paradigm you’re stuck in you’d see things for how they really are.”  (From Define Paradigm at Dictionary.com)

This is precisely the mindset of which we speak in this blog. 

Mentor
Our last “M” word is mentor.  A mentor can be a useful guide to us in our search for success and happiness.  Never before in American culture have we seen such an emphasis on mentor-ship in all of its forms.

We have personal coaches by the dozens.  In reading Harvey MacKay’s blogs, he once said he had over twenty “coaches” (mentors), including a ping pong coach. 

The beautiful part of having a mentor is this; they can look at us in ways that are impossible for us to see ourselves.  And if they are skilled in their field, their expertise helps us find, correct and avoid the pitfalls we need to overcome to move to the next rung on the ladder of success. 

Having the guts to place ourselves into the hands of a mentor can be daunting.  It requires giving up old thoughts, old habits and old mindsets in exchange for a new and improved outlook, attitude and mindset.

Mentors open up to us a whole new vista for our dreams. 

Use them wisely.
  
P Michael Biggs
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One Word at a Time


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