Based
on Daring Greatly
by
Brene Brown
We
need to focus on a couple of psychological terms for a moment – Shame and
Guilt.
Shame says “I am bad.”
Guilt says “I did something bad.”
See
the difference? We beat ourselves up
with a shame mindset.
Brene
says this: “I define shame as the intensely painful feeling or
experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and
belonging
“I don't believe shame is helpful or
productive. In fact, I think shame is much more likely to be the source of
destructive, hurtful behavior than the solution or cure. I think the fear of
disconnection can make us dangerous.”
I
really want to help you understand this important distinction if you are one who
suffers at the hands of shame.
It
is the rare individual who never does anything bad. However, doing something bad and being bad
are two completely different issues.
See
the difference?
Brene continues:
“Shame is the swamp land of the soul. Shame is the gremlin who says
‘You are
not good enough.’
‘I know
things that happened to you growing up.’”
Silence
the gremlin. Stop the shame. Hold onto a loftier image of YOU. You may have done something bad, but you
are not bad.
Take
a step toward believing in you!
P Michael Biggs
Offering
Hope
Encouragement
Inspiration
One Word
at a Time
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